Wednesday, July 4, 2007

Back Again

It has been over a month since my last post. Losing our first baby to a miscarriage was a truly difficult experience. We are both still trying to get past this, realizing that we will never fully get over this loss. We have both been doing some reading and talking with others that have had a similar experience to us. It was quit shocking for me to find out how many couples go through a loss. If you are interested, please share your experiences. We are at the point where we would like to try again. We are staying positive, especially after reading, 'The Secret.' Please feel free to offer us any advice!


yatie'scorner said...





Anonymous said...

Welcome back Smiley Yes unfortunately it is all too common. I have had 2 very early m/c, and now have my lovely Lilly. Nothing will change the feeling of uncertainty that you will get when you are pg after a m/c, but you will get through it. My advice, is to keep a positive outlook for the future.


Anonymous said...

Awww ... I'm so glad you're trying again.
Miscarriage is devastating and it's great that you have been able to talk about it with friends and family.
You should do something to memorialize your wee one. Plant a bush in your yard or make a flower garden.
For me, I bought a special ornament for our tree during the Holidays and place it near the top (our angel).

Anonymous said...


First off, I am sorry for your loss Sad Losing a child, is something one never gets over...As you work through the grieving process, you will learn to better live with that pain...loss.

My name is Marie. I am 42, and one of the moderators on this board.

A little about me. DH and I started ttc seriously in 2005. Since that time I have lost 9 babies (well, one was in 1999) with no known cause...only speculation...


Anyways, after our 9th loss, I was all scheduled for IVF/PGD for possibly the following month or so...Yet I felt God pushing me to give it one more go naturally. So, dh and I bd, and got preg straight away.

I prayed as I always have, that if it be God's will, that this child live...That said, with this pregnancy..The story in the Bible about the woman who bled and bled her whole life, and fought through the crowd surrounding Jesus...reaching out in faith, and touching His she was healed...I thought, *if only I could touch your robe Jesus, I would be healed* ..

I went in for my betas and they were very good, along with my progesterone. I went in for my first ultrasound, and saw a good heart beat...

Now, this was the usual for me, with a good amount of my pregnancy's....Good beta's, good first heart beat...then all would always fall apart by the time the second ultrasound came around, which was usually around the 8-9 or so week mark..

So, I go in for my 9wk ultrasound, fully expecting to see my baby has gone to be with the Lord, as usual...But what do I see instead? I see my baby is perfect Smile with a strong heart beat.... I was in complete shock..

I don't know what God has in store for me, or my child...But right now I am 11wks preg...with no signs that anything is going wrong.

I truly believe, that *if* it is God's will that this child lives..That it was not of my doing...That it was God who healed me, who enabled me to carry this child to term...

Time will tell...Until then, I am thankful for every day He gives me with my baby...

I don't know if my story helps or not....My journey is far from finished...

I hope this time it has a happy ending..


Anonymous said...

I too lost my first baby to a miscarriage. I was 12 weeks pregnant devastated- I never for one second thought it would happen to me. No one in my family had ever experienced a miscarriage so I just took it for granted that I would have a healthy baby, as well. And here it is almost a year later in August and I am still traumatized by it. We tried to get pregnant soon after we lost Madison, but it was just too hard to face disappointment of not getting pregnant immediately so we gave up for a little while. Now, I am more at peace with it, but still very saddened by the loss. I don't think I could have loved my baby anymore had it been any older or had I actually met her. But we are trying again and very excited to begin a family and optimistic that it will happen for us when the time is right. My best friend lost her first baby as well, so I like to think that they are "bestest" friend's in heaven. It makes me feel better to know that I have family in heaven that is taking care of my baby until I see it again.

Anonymous said...

So sorry for your loss ((((Hugs)))) to you both.

It is lovely to see you around again and great to hear that you will be ttc-ing again. As Aly says it can be a scary prospect as you are all too aware that mc is real but trying to remain positive and enjoy the pregnancy is a great idea.

There is a brilliant thread on the main pregnancy forum specifically for those trying to conceive which you might find useful. There are lots of mums there sharing advice, tips and offering support on the TTC journey.

Also there is a thread there 'pregnant after a loss' offering support to those who have found out that they are pregnant again having suffered a miscarriage. It is very supportive and a great place to get information, reassurance and support from others who have been in the same position.

I am not sure if you know, but we have a memorial board to remember each of our angels. Please PM me if you would like your angel remembered here.

Sending you lots of love. Kiss

Anonymous said...

So sorry for your loss xX

I had 2 missed mc before Ds came along, the second was 3/4 months before concieving ds......for me we were advised to wait because of the D&C I had to have. It is such a personal decision I know some people feel ready to TTC straight away after mc and that is right for them, for me I think it helped to be feeling physically ready as well as emotionally ready. I think for me at the time the overwhelming want for a baby out weighed the fear of another mc so I was able to try again.




Anonymous said...

Hi there, so sorry for your loss, I had one in 2005, and although very early (9weeks) i still found it extremely traumatic and was depressed for a while.

I am so glad you are feeling so positive and thats a good way to be, I wish you tonnes of good luck

Got My Kids Mississauga said...

I wish you luck as you begin to try again for a baby.

My advice would be to stay positive and enjoy the effort, try not to try too hard.

My own parents tried for 4 years before having a baby. My mother did novenas to St. Anne the patron saint of barren women. She promised to name the baby Anne if she had a girl. Finally they decided God must have other plans for them. They went out and spent some of the money they had saved for baby expenses on a new stereo.

Guess what happened then....

Warm regards,


Anonymous said...

I echo everything Nicola has said - come check out the ttc thread (don't be put off by the "ladies" bit in the title - I'm sure that no-one will mind having a male around the shop Grin

The Pregnant after a loss thread was what got me through my first trimester with my DD so I can highly recommend that one too.

Hugs honey, it's such a difficult time.

Belle said...

Welcome back! Good to hear that you & your wife are trying again for a baby. Best of luck!

chanelwong said...

Be positive and you can do it. I truly understand because I also face miscarriage around end of last year.

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